Happy Talks

Happy Talks #3: Unfiltered Mama

Happy Tuesday!  You guys know what that means: it’s time for another Happy Talk.  I’m having a lot of fun getting in the groove of talking to bloggers, getting answers, and gaining so much insight from all the life experiences everyone has.  This week I’m talking to the lovely Courtney from The Unfiltered Mama!  She is a fellow mental health blogger who’s a wife and soon-to-be mother of two.  I enjoyed reading her answers, especially since she has that special perspective of being a mom.

1) What has your mental health journey been like for you so far? You can tell us as much or as little as you like.

My mental health journey started when I was fairly young. In my blog, I have went into full detail about personal experiences with anxiety and depression, suicidal thoughts/attempts, treatment, etc. I think it’s fair for me to say that it has been one hell of a ride. There were moments I wasn’t sure I’d make it into the next day, but that little fire in me was motivation to keep it moving… one day at a time.

2) How do you keep yourself content day-to-day?

Being that I’ll soon be a mother of two, my happiness is laid out into the palms of my hands every day. When I’m feeling down, all I need to do is look at what I have in front of me to be reminded that they are the reason I’m here today. A lot of times I find myself spread out on the floor with my daughter, toys scattered every where, and I put myself in the moment with her. We create a different bond, daily. That’s what makes me happy.

3) Looking back at times you’ve struggled, what would you tell your past self to help them out?

If I were to talk to my past self, I would tell her that she’s not alone. There are so many people, myself included, who strongly believe that they’re crazy to think some of the things the mind comes up with. It’s not true. Just because you think it doesn’t make it real. So I would really push to convince her that during whatever struggle she had at the moment, her feelings were normal and she wasn’t alone in the battle.

4) What are the things that make you happy, how do you pursue them, and what would you tell others who are trying to pursue what makes them happy?

I’m extremely happy for starting my blog in the first place. I doubted myself in the beginning and wasn’t sure whether I’d grow a steady following. But knowing that I’ve reached out to an audience who needs help really touches my heart. This only makes me write more and want to do better, in hopes that a larger audience will come to me when they are struggling. For those who are trying to pursue a dream or find their happiness, don’t give up. You’re going to have days when the motivation just isn’t there. But remind yourself of why you started pursuing your goals and get back up on your feet.

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5) How do you take care of yourself when you’re feeling down?

When I’m not feeling like myself, I like to clean while listening to music. My daughter always joins in on the off-beat dancing and loves to hear me sing. Cleaning/organizing helps me get my mind to focus. Singing has always been a passion of mine too, so when I have the chance to let it all out… the neighbors hear me roar.

6) How has blogging contributed to your happiness?

Blogging has contributed to my happiness by proving that my words are effective to others. I didn’t expect to grow such a strong support system.
But the more I write and publish, the more feedback I get expressing that they want more. I have been able to help so many people move on from times that have set them back. That is a true goal coming to life. I wouldn’t change that for the world.

7) What inspires you, both for blogging and in your personal life?

My blog inspiration comes from sharing my journey to connect with others dealing with the same thing. When I receive comments that they’re so glad they came across my post and feel better about the situation they’re in, I’ve done my job. In my personal life, my inspiration comes from the love of my family. I work so hard to keep them all happy. I consider myself a super mom because I’m always juggling so many things at once. But that’s what makes this life worth living.

8) How have your friends and family supported your mental health journey? What helped and what did not?

Before I started blogging, most of my family really had no idea how complicated my mental health journey was. Once I started revealing the whole truth, they were… shocked, to say the least. But all of them have been so supportive. They encourage me to keep writing because they know that has been the ultimate form of recovery for me.

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9) What are your goals for the future, both for yourself and your blog? How do you go about achieving those goals?

My goals for the future involve the continuation of what I love doing most, which is blogging. I hope to eventually move my blog to self-hosted. I have been doing a lot of research and I feel like before I commit to something like that, I should feel 100% confident that that’s what will be right for me. As far as myself, my goals are all about my mental health. I have been striving to keep myself healthy, mentally and physically, to be the best mom I can be. Day in and day out. Writing has helped me achieve that, as well as staying active.

10) What makes you feel most alive?

I feel most alive when everything in my life is going as planned. When I’m organized and prepared for the next day to come, I feel like nothing can go wrong. But even if it does, that’s okay. Right now is the time I’ve felt most alive in a long time. My writing has been successful and my family will be growing (very shortly). Nothing can bring me down.

Thanks so much to Courtney for this wonderful interview! If you want to see more from her, you can check her out at:

Blog: Unfiltered Mama
Facebook: The Unfiltered Mama
Instagram: @_UnfilteredMama
Pinterest: Courtney – Unfiltered Mama

Till next talk,
Shannon