Happy Talks

Happy Talks #4: Mathew Writes

Happy Tuesday! This week I’m talking to Mathew from Mathew Writes. He is an artsy blogger from the Asia-Pacific area with a passion for photography, poetry, and sketching. Hope you all enjoy our talk!

1) What has your mental health journey been like for you so far? You can tell us as much or as little as you like.

My mental health journey has been good.  I have been raised by my family in a peaceful environment.  When I was in school, I worked hard to get good grades.  After that, I followed my passion and took the decision which shaped my life: I am now into content writing!  As I grew up, I got support from family and friends, which helped me a lot with the excess stress I used to face.  I was often late for school.  In college, my finances collapsed.  I was worried about my education and future.  When I started earning, I had a debt to pay.  It’s a struggle when finances are low, and I am working hard to keep up the pace.  I am also an emotional person; I love talking to people, but I also like to sail in the memories of the past.  Although I have faced lots of ups and downs in life, healthy habits like exercise (like running) and good dieting helped me a lot to keep a check on my mental health.

2) How do you keep yourself content day-to-day?

In day-to-day life, I keep myself content in many ways.  The first one is a routine to follow, set by achievable targets and trying my personal best to give my fullest.  If I achieve my goals, I reward myself with ice cream and chocolate; if not, then I read books to relax.  So I have a 50-50 chance of treating myself.  Sometimes I sleep to make myself content too!  On some odd days, I do photography to break the monotony of routine life.

3) Looking back at times you’ve struggled, what would you tell your past self to help them out?

I would rather say “well done, boy” as I think I did fair in my tough times.  I am grateful for the struggle I have been through, I have learned a lot from it.  Thinking in retrospect, I would love to talk with my past self and empower and motivate them, like icing on the cake.

4) What are the things that make you happy, how do you pursue them, and what would you tell others who are trying to pursue what makes them happy?

I am under-ambitious in being happy; I find joy in little things.  One of my favorites is seeing kids smiling.  I pursue happiness by helping others in the tasks they are assigned to.  Instead of giving baseless advice, I listen to them before talking.  Happiness is something I feel comes from within.  To make others happy, one has to be happy by themselves.  I always tell people to keep collecting small things, small joys, and enjoy life to the fullest.  Have some “me-time” where you can think about yourself, the path of your life, your goals, follow your ethics, and be childlike sometimes.

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5) How do you take care of yourself when you’re feeling down?

There are a lot of times where I have felt down.  I have learned that expecting too much always hurts.  Whenever I feel down, I sleep.  I don’t know why but when I feel down I don’t like to think about it.  It feels like a loop that plays on and on, so I try to freeze the loop and sleep.  After sleeping, I eat and that’s when my recovery starts.  Food has an emotional connection for me.  After that, I hang out with friends and share my issues.  It’s hard to open up sometimes, but that’s what the friends have brought that light into my life are for.  I am thankful to have friends with whom I can share those issues.  In their absence, I write in a diary and write a story about the experience.  Read and write, that’s how I take care of myself.  Recently I have found doodling and sketching soothing to my mind as well.

6) How has blogging contributed to your happiness?

I am a newbie blogger, I recently joined social media too.  Earlier I used to read a lot of blogs, I always wanted to write one, but I somehow did not get time.  Initially, I kept a journal where I used to keep my thoughts.  After other people’s experiences, I felt that I should write out the melancholy in my own mind!

7) What inspires you, both for blogging and in your personal life?

Once I read a great line: “life is beautiful.”  This is my motto for life.  I have planned to write something on it on my blog too.  I have started writing for myself on my blog.  I have started to express myself and reach as many people as I can, via words that my heart speaks.  I am positive that my blog will empower my mental health by connecting with people.  My blog will also help me get valuable suggestions from the blogging community!

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8) How have your friends and family supported your mental health journey? What helped and what did not?

In my mental health journey, my close friends and family were gems.  They stood by me through thick and thin.  I remember when I was facing emotional issues, my friends used to cheer me up.  While family motivated me to pursue my dreams and develop a flair for writing, I worked hard to be rock solid in my career!

9) What are your goals for the future, both for yourself and your blog? How do you go about achieving those goals?

The goal right now for me is to get my finances right and stable.  I am working and also dedicating time for my creative side so that I can relieve my creative juices.  For my blog, it’s just the beginning!  So wish me luck. I am looking forward to sharing my words and I am open to constructive comments and suggestions.  I personally believe that I need sound mental and physical health.  My health decides my wellbeing, so it’s pretty straightforward what I have to do.  I am flexible in achieving my goals, I have a mindset that everything happens for a reason and we can only connect the dots by looking back.

10) What makes you feel most alive?

My life, I would say.  As my life went on, it taught me so many things; I am very grateful for all the experiences I’ve had.  I am alive and ready for adventure.  My daily fitness routine also gives me a punch.  The rest of my time is spent in the work that I love.  Life is beautiful.  We all have some struggle, but life is worth it.

Thanks to Mathew for being my happy talk of the week! If you want to read more from him, check out his social media:

Email: PoemCeleb@gmail.com
Instagram: @Mathewrites
Blog: Mathew Writes
Twitter: @Mathewrites

‘Till the next talk,
Shannon