Happy Talks

Happy Talks #15: Gemma Callaway

Hey friends!  It’s the week of Thanksgiving for us USA-ers, and if you celebrate I wish you many things to be grateful for.

This week I’m talking to a blogger that I’m super excited about having on my site: Gemma Callaway!  I’ve been subscribed to her blog for a while; she talks a lot about physical and mental health, and she’s not afraid to get candid about her personal experiences.  For example, I’ve loved her series she’s started on hypnotherapy.  It’s informative, insightful, and relatable.

Let’s see what she has to say!

1) What has your mental health journey been like for you so far? You can tell us as much or as little as you like.

Mellow, confusing, tough, unbearable. But also- enlightening, life-changing, insightful and important. I would not be half the person I am today without the struggles of anxiety and depression that I have tackled over the years, and especially the last 2 or 3.

2) How do you keep yourself content day-to-day?

With gratitude- I’m slowly learning to be grateful for everything around me and to be mindful of each minute of my day. I have a Happiness Journal which I write in every day which has questions like; ‘what was your favourite moment of today?’ and ‘name three things today that you were grateful for?’. It also gives you the opportunity to write a to-do list for the next day. It’s actually really helpful & positive. I also dedicate my time to the gym, photography, blogging, watching movies, playing video games.. just generally doing things that make me happy and are fun.

3) Looking back at times you’ve struggled, what would you tell your past self to help them out?

Let the feelings pass without fighting them. Be mindful and listen to yourself. It’s good to push yourself at times but there’s a point where you should learn to rest your mind. It’s okay, you’ve tried your hardest but it’s time to take a step back and take care of yourself.

4) What are the things that make you happy, how do you pursue them, and what would you tell others who are trying to pursue what makes them happy?

I honestly think I’m still finding what makes me truly happy. But, then I don’t think there will ever be one defining moment with one ‘thing’ that makes you happy. Blogging, going to the gym and photography all make me equally happy with my day-to-day life and I believe that’s what’s most important. Right now I’m focusing much more on living in the moment than worrying too much about the future. I honestly believe that If you find the things that make you blossom today, tomorrow will look after itself.

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5) How do you take care of yourself when you’re feeling down?

Usually the gym is a great mood booster for me, especially when I’m feeling depressed. I can go from being absolutely miserable to chirpy by the end of the day. But when I don’t have the motivation to get to the gym I try to give myself a little pamper- a nice hot shower, pluck my eyebrows, face mask and moisturiser, candles, essential oils… the works. It makes me feel really good and fresh for the next day.

6) How has blogging contributed to your happiness?

Blogging has been great for me. It’s given me a real outlet where I know there are people who read and understand. It has also allowed me to join a community of like-minded individuals going through the same struggles. I have also made some of the best friends I’ve ever had.

7) What inspires you, both for blogging and in your personal life?

The people all around me inspire me, whether they suffer or not. Having the knowledge that so many people around me do what they love and really enjoy their lives, makes me feel so positive and motivated. A huge inspiration for me with blogging is my younger self. When I’m thinking about new blog posts I tend to think, ‘what have I learnt that may have been useful when I was feeling that way?’. I try very hard to write relatable and genuinely useful blog posts.

8) How have your friends and family supported your mental health journey? What helped and what did not?

My friends are amazing. Granted they struggle with their own mental illnesses but that makes them so much more empathetic. My boyfriend is a total diamond with me as well- he’s done everything he can to help me & understand and has been so supportive. And my Mum is a superstar- she’s suffered with severe mental illness and knows exactly what to say and what not to. Sometimes for me too much sympathy leaves me wallowing in pity, spending three days in bed without showering or so much as looking at a toothbrush. It’s good to have support, but it needs to be positive. Like, rather than saying ‘can I get you anything?’ it’s more helpful to say ‘let’s go and make a coffee’. If that makes sense?

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9) What are your goals for the future, both for yourself and your blog? How do you go about achieving those goals?

As I said previously I don’t like to worry too much about the future. My personal goals are very loose as I just want to be content and successful. My goals with my blog are mostly to increase my audience and also to explore other types of blogging – I’ve dabbled in beauty, product reviews and will soon be doing a little bit of fashion blogging. Although my blog’s original and sole purpose was to help those struggling with mental health, I want it to show off me as a person too.

10) What makes you feel most alive?

Going to new places and experiencing new things. Life is full of wonder, it’s all about finding it!

If you wanna see more from Gem, check her social media out here:

Blog: Gemma Callaway
Twitter: @gemcals
Instagram: @gemcals

Have a happy Thanksgiving/a great rest of your week,

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Note: all photos supplied by Gemma.